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January 2017 The Carlton Times Love Honor Provide With each new day comes a New beginning Theme of the Month: In the month of January we will celebrate the new year by focusing on all the new beginnings it brings. Residents are encouraged to share their personal experiences about new beginnings and join in activities centered around their goals for the new year. For theme related programs see the activities highlighted in pink on our monthly calendar. Join us in celebrating New Beginnings 380 1000 Branham East 14th Lane, St., San Jose, Leandro, CA 95136 CA 94577408.972.1400 510.636.0660 License# 435200727 015600341 www.carltonseniorliving.com

Dementia and Journaling: Tracking the Journey By Ava M. Stinnett You ve probably heard or read about the benefits of keeping a journal. Perhaps it was Oprah recommending that you record five things that you re grateful for every day, or maybe it was a teacher or counselor who viewed journaling as a way to clarify your thoughts and feelings and to help solve problems. Regardless of the reason, there are great benefits to journaling, especially if you ve been diagnosed with dementia or you re a caregiver to someone who has been diagnosed. Scientific evidence supports journaling. While the left side of your brain, which is analytical and rational, is occupied, the right side is free to create and feel. Expressing feelings in writing isn t just a good way of tracking the progress of dementia and looking for specific trends; it s also a tool to help orient the person with dementia. When dementia starts to make it difficult to find the right words, writing can reduce feelings of powerlessness and provide a way of processing the changes that are occurring. Whether living with a dementia diagnosis or being a caregiver, starting a journal may seem overwhelming. It may be helpful to use a sensory image, a list, or a sentence starter. In her book You Want Me to Do What? Journaling for Caregivers (2008), B. Lynn Goodwin provides 200 open-ended sentences, such as, I feel... or I remember the time... or I wish my family knew... to help you get started. Although the book was written for caregivers, many of the prompts work just as well for someone in the early stages of dementia. Here are some more simple tips to keep in mind: Memory Corner Start with the day, the date, and the year. Include a brief description of the weather if you feel moved to do so. Allow just 15 minutes to write, perhaps first thing in the morning, to develop the ritual of writing. Forget about grammar, spelling, and punctuation! Just let the feelings and words flow, whether it s one sentence or an entire page. Technology can be useful if handwriting is too difficult. A tape recorder, video camera, typewriter, or computer can provide the means for continuing the routine of journaling. If the loved one feels that the journal is private, it s important to respect that, despite a desire by the caregiver to look for changes in the stage of the disease. Goodwin says that it doesn't matter if what s recorded is legible or not. Journaling provides both the caregiver and care recipient the opportunity to reach beyond themselves and communicate their complicated thoughts and feelings. It s a way to give a voice to conflicting emotions in a safe way. Article Resources Botek, A-M. Dear Diary: Journaling for Caregivers. Retrieved from https://www.agingcare.com/articles/journalingfor-caregivers-148782.htm Goodwin, L. B. (2008). You Want Me to Do What? Journaling for Caregivers. Mustang, OK: Tate Publishing. Purcell, M. The Health Benefits of Journaling. Retrieved from http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-health-benefits-ofjournaling/ 10 Benefits Journaling Provides Caregivers. Posted on Feb 26, 2015 by A Place for Mom Staff. Retrieved from http://www.aplaceformom.com/blog/2-26-15-journaling-for-caregivers/ Each wave of change brings a new beginning

Jay Underwood Executive Director Tuesday-Saturday Schedule Gloria Clark Associate Director Tuesday-Saturday Schedule Jennell Revera Director of Resident Services Sunday-Thursday Schedule Jennifer Drummond Memory Care Manager Tuesday-Saturday Schedule Maria Martinez Medication Manager Sunday-Thursday Schedule Maricel Sicat Memory Care Personal Care Manager Sunday-Thursday Schedule Mander Farrell Personal Expressions Manager Sunday-Thursday Schedule Joshika Ram Dining Room Manager Tuesday-Saturday Schedule Patricia Bushnell Resident Liaison Tuesday-Saturday Schedule

December memories December Poetry Project Birds By Yolanda K., Erma B., Penny M., Dorothy H. and Sue F. When I feed the birds I give them seed. When I feed the birds I give them something little. When I feed the birds I give them some water. When I feed the birds I give them love. Giving My Attention By Yolanda K., Erma B., Penny M., Dorothy H. and Sue F. When I hold the baby I feel the little body and the heart, going up and down. When I hold the a baby I feel responsible. When I hold the baby I am so happy to know, this little child.

Sunday, January 1 Thursday, January 5 9:30 Music & Motion(MC TV) 10:30 Catholic Mass 12:30 New Years Resolutions (MC AR) 1:00 Walking Group (MC AR) 1:30 Christmas Sing A long(mc AR) 2:00 Lavender Hand Spa (MC AR) 3:00 Evening Stretch (MC AR) 9:30 Scenic Drive 9:30 Octoband (MC AR) 10:30 Word Board Search: Baby Animals (MC AR) 12:30 The Birth of an Island (MC AR) 1:00 Trivia (MC AR) 1:30 Kickball (MC AR) 2:00 Music with Gus (MC AR) 3:00 California s Roots (LR) Monday, January 2 Friday, January 6 10:30 Trivia (MC TV) 12:30 Indoor Golf (MC AR) 1:00 Bingo (MC AR)) 2:00 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR 2:30 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 3:00 PM Stretch with Caregiver (MC AR) 9:30 Morning Stretch with Caregiver (MC AR) 10:30 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR) 1:30 Edye s Art Class (AR) 2:30 Picture Puzzle(MC AR) 3:00 Walking Group Tuesday, January 3 Saturday, January 7 9:30 Octoband (MC AR) 10:00 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 10:30 The Daily Chronicle & Daily Extra (MC AR) 1:30 TimeSlips (MC AR) Hearing Aid Clinic 2:00 Painting (MC AR)! 3:00 Ring Toss (MC AR) 4:00 Chance s Drum Circle (AR) Wednesday, January 4 9:30 Adaptive Yoga with Lacy (MC AR) 10:15 Cooking Class- Baking Bread (MC AR) 1:15 Sensory Activity - Fabric Design (MC AR) 2:00 Afternoon Stretch (MC AR) 2:30 Trivia (MC AR) 3:00 Painting Class (MC AR) Bread Baking Month! 9:30 Conductorcise (MC TV) 10:00 Trivia & The Daily Chronicle (MC TV) 10:30 Conversation Ball (MC TV) 12:30 New Start Poetry Project (MC AR) 1:00 Walking Group 2:00 Planting Seedlings (MC AR) 3:00 Bingo (MC AR) Key Theme Day! MC TV - MC TV Room MC BLR - MC Back Living Room MC AR - MC Activity Room MC P - MC Patio AR - Activity Room LR - Living Room

Sunday, January 8 Thursday, January 12 9:30 Chair Salsa (MC TV) 10:30 Catholic Mass & Walking Group 12:30 Bingo (MC AR) & Walking Group 1:00 Daily Doses of Nostalgia (MC AR) 1:30 Kick Ball (MC AR) 2:00 Lavender Hand Spa (MC AR) 3:00 Indoor Golf (MC AR) 5:30 Board Game Night 9:30 Scenic Drive 9:30 Conductorcise (MC TV) 10:30 Trivia (MC TV) 1:00 Artist Hour (MC AR) 2:00 Table Top Bowling (MC AR) 2:30 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 3:00 Penguin Party with Jerry Jay Trio (LR) Monday, January 9 Friday, January 13 10:30 Trivia (MC TV) 1:15 Painting with water colors (MC AR) 2:00 Bowling Social (MC AR) 3:00 Puzzle Club (MC AR) 9:30 Smile and Sway (MC TV) 10:00 Donut and Coffee Social (MC TV) 10:15 History of Friday the 13 th (MC TV) 1:30 Edye s Art Class (AR) 2:00 Trivia & The Daily Chronicle (MC AR) 3:00 January Birthday Celebration (LR) Tuesday, January 10 Saturday, January 14 9:30 Morning Stretch with Staff(MC AR) 10:30 Meet Me at the Museum (MC TV) 1:00 Never Have I Game (MC AR) 2:00 Kick Ball (MC AR) 3:00 Golfing Social (AR) 4:00 Trivia (MC AR) Wednesday, January 11 9:30 Adaptive Yoga with Lacy (MC AR) 10:30 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR) 1:30 Cooking Class - Black & White Popcorn 2:00 Bingo (MC AR) 3:00 Day at the Races (MC AR) Wheelchair Cleaning 9:30 Octoband Exercise (MC AR) 10:00 Saturday Tea (MC AR) 10:30 The Daily Chronicle & Daily Extra 12:30 Shuffle Board (3 rd Floor) 1:15 Bingo (MC AR) 2:00 Ceramics with Lisa (MC AR) 3:00 Peninsula Banjo Band (LR) Penguin Theme Day Try something new! Learn to paint and draw in Edye s Art Class Fridays at 1:30pm

Sunday, January 15 Thursday, January 19 9:30 Music & Motion(MC TV) 10:30 Catholic Mass & Walking Group 12:30 Indoor Golf (MC AR) 1:00 Trivia (MC TV) 2:00 Lavender Hand Spa (MC AR) 2:30 Walking Group 3:00 Sundae Social (LR) 9:30 Smile and Sway (MC TV) 10:30 Trivia (MC TV) 12:00 Matinee Movie: The Fox and the Child 1:00 Sensory: Water Beads (MC AR) 2:00 Music with Gus (MC AR) 2:30 Trivia (MC AR) 3:00 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR) Monday, January 16 Friday, January 20 9:30 Scenic Drive 10:30 Hand Massage(MC AR) & Ceramics (AR) 12:30 The Daily Chronicle & Daily Extra (MC AR) 1:00 Sing A Long (MC AR) 2:00 Martin Luther King Jr Day (MC AR) 3:00 Balloon Volleyball & Walking Group 4:00 Bingo (MC AR) 9:30 Octoband (MC AR) 10:00 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 10:30 The Daily Chronicle & Daily Extra (MC AR) 1:30 Edye s Art Class (LR) 2:00 What am I? (MC AR) 3:00 Bingo (MC AR) Tuesday, January 17 Saturday, January 21 9:30 Strength Exercise (MC AR) 10:30 Meet Me at the Museum (MC TV) 1:15 Poetry Project (MC AR) 2:00 MC Sundae Social (MC AR) 3:00 Fitness Boot Camp with James (AR) 5:30 Board Game Night Wednesday, January 18 9:30 Adaptive Yoga with Lacy (MC AR) 10:15 Word Board Search: Life s Firsts (MC AR) 1:15 Cooking Class 2:00 TimeSlips (MC AR) 2:30 Day at the Races (MC AR) 3:00 Walking Group Sunday Brunch at 11:15am Podiatry Here at 9:30am 9:30 Strength Exercise (MC AR) 10:30 Picture Puzzle(MC AR) 12:30 The First Time I (MC AR) 1:30 Mander s Cooking Show (AR) 2:00 Ceramics with Lisa (MC AR) 3:00 Ken Sosa (LR) bought a house. Flew. Drove. Keeping moving is important. Come join us for one of our many different exercise and physical activities. Walking Group: A fun walking club inside and on the trail. Yoga with Lacy: Lacy is our Yoga instructor from KB Fitness who does chair stretching and yoga with our residents. Fitness Boot Camp with James: James does a fun drill instructor style class and his dog Tank joins in on the fun! Smile and Sway: A lively music exercise video where you move and dance to different styles of music. Basketball Toss, Bowling and Volleyball: All these sports help keep you moving, work on coordination and its fun!

Sunday, January 22 Thursday, January 26 9:30 Sit And Be Fit (MC TV) 10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)& Joke Club (MC AR) 12:30 Hand Massage (MC AR) 1:30 Life of a Butter Fly (MC AR) 2:00 Shuffle Board (3 rd Floor) 3:00 Trivia (MC AR) 9:30 Octoband Exercise (MC TV) 10:30 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 12:00 SingFit (MC AR) 1:00 Kickball (MC AR) 2:00 Madlibs (MC AR) 3:00 Trivia (MC AR) 5:30 Board Game Night (MC AR) Monday, January 23 Friday, January 27 9:30 Octoband (MC AR) 10:30 Sensory: Water Beads (MC AR) 1:30 Trivia (MC AR) 2:00 Day at the Races (MC AR) 3:00 Bowling Social (MC AR) 3:30 Ernie Lima Performs (LR) 9:30 Smile and Sway (MC TV) 10:30 TimeSlips: First Time Drivers (MC TV) 1:30 Edye s Art Class (AR) 2:30 Trivia 3:00 Word Board Search: First Date (MC AR) 3:30 I Hear Memories (MC AR) Tuesday, January 24 Saturday, January 28 9:30 Music & Motion (MC TV) 10:15 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 12:30 Trivia (LR) 2:00 Bingo (MC AR) 3:00 Octoband (MC AR) 3:45 Snack Box Club (AR) 9:30 Octoband (MC AR) 10:15 Trivia (MC AR) 1:15 Sensory Activity - Fabric Design (MC AR) 2:00 Balloon Volley Ball (MC AR) 3:00 Walking Group Crab Theme! Wednesday, January 25 9:30 Adaptive Yoga with Lacy (MC AR) 10:30 Cooking Class: Baking Bread 1:30 Kick Ball (MC TV) 2:00 My First Bad Haircut (MC AR) 3:00 Tabletop Bowling (MC AR) Play Something New Madlibs! It s going to be a Time! (Adjective) Explosive! Messy Spoiled Fuzzy carefree

Sunday, January 29 9:30 Chair Salsa (MC TV) 10:30 Catholic Mass & Walking Group 12:30 Bingo (MC AR) & Walking Group 1:00 Daily Doses of Nostalgia (MC AR) 1:30 Kick Ball (MC AR) 2:00 Lavender Hand Spa (MC AR) 3:00 Indoor Golf (MC AR) 5:30 Board Game Night 9:30 Scenic Drive Monday, January 30 10:30 Sing A Long (MC AR) & Ceramics (AR) 11:00 Puzzle Club (MC AR) 12:00 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR) 1:30 Brining Home The Baby (MC AR) 2:00 Conversation Ball (MC AR) 3:00 Walking Group Tuesday, January 31 9:30 Music & Motion (MC TV) 10:30 Picture Puzzle(MC AR) 1:30 Poetry Project (MC AR) 2:00 Balloon Volleyball (MC AR) 2:30 Word Board Search - First Time Parents 3:00 Fitness Boot Camp with James (LR) Wednesday, December 28 Crab Feed January 26, 2017 4:30-6:30 Tickets $25 Must RSVP by 1/21/17 Snack Box Club We will be meeting monthly and Trying a variety of goodies from Around the world while sharing our Stories. First club meeting is January 24 At 3:45pm 9:30 Adaptive Yoga with Lacy (MC AR) 10:15 Sensory Activity - Fabric Design (MC AR) 1:15 Cooking Class- Baking Bread (MC AR) 2:00 Afternoon Stretch (MC AR) 2:30 Trivia (MC AR) 3:00 Painting Class (MC AR) 5:30 Cinema Night (MC TV

Resident Highlight Joan Queirolo was born on May 27, 1930 in Kenosha, Wisconsin. They lived above the cafe her parents owned in Michigan City, Indiana. Her mother, Julia, was the cook for the cafe. Joan loved to travel but also loved to spend quite time reading or working outside in her flower garden. Joan still spends her time reading and loves visits from children. Staff Highlight Beleyou Bogale Mulat 1/03 Sunita Mishra 1/31 Venus Cordero Venus has worked at Carlton for nine years. She always comes into work with a bubbly personality and you ll often see her dancing with a resident or Mander. Even on her off days from here, she is caring for her Grandchildren. Venus also creates beautiful floral arraignments.

By Ruby McDonald Here we are going into the second quarter of the rest of our lives and I m wondering how many of us have learned to take charge of our own futures? It s so easy to just bump along, taking what comes and wondering why the same things keep happening to us. How many of us fully realize the power that we carry around with us, mostly untapped and deteriorating from nonuse. Many of you will know that I am referring to brainpower. rather than allowing our minds to run free with worry, anger, and other negative emotions that minimize our chance to be healthy, gain peace of mind, and have lasting happiness. Always Empowered, Always Young There is no magic formula or age limit. We just have to take charge and become the CEO of our own lives. How do we do that? Many people start out their day with prayer or meditation and end it the same way. In addition to prayer and meditation, we can examine our thought process to insure that we have not formed the habit of looking at life through negativity. Here s one way to test yourself : Ask yourself if you see a glass of liquid half full (positive thinker) or half empty (negative thinker). Also, being critical and not accepting of others comes from negative thinking. Seeing the good in people and being able to compliment and help them when needed is being a positive thinker. Another positive attitude shows when we are friendly to a new person who enters your environment, such as when a new resident moves in to your community. Remember how it feels to be the new kid on the block. Those feelings seldom change just because we are older. Our brain is like a computer. It is waiting for us to learn how to use it and then it will perform for us. Our brain/mind needs specific instructions from us so that it knows exactly how we want it to perform. It doesn t care if our input is negative or positive; it will perform either way. That s why it is so very important to insure that the input is positive. Positive input comes from everything we do and think. It includes the people we see every day, the movies we watch, the books and newspaper we read, the amount of world news we watch, and etc. I know that often life becomes difficult, as we grow more seasoned. Loneliness and illness are not much fun to live with, but again, we make the choice in how we are going to deal with them. First of all, I encourage you to focus on and be grateful for the time you had with your loved one never focus on the loss. Secondly, never take possession of an illness by referring to it as My. Treat it as the uninvited guest that it is, look at it as an inconvenience and determine to live your life in a positive manner. One of my favorite quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer goes something like this: I d say that sums it up pretty well. As always, we are left to make our own free choices and we are also left to live with the results of those choices. I have found that it takes less energy to live a positive life and to be the CEO of my own life.. Einstein said, "We cannot solve our problems using the same thinking we used when we created them.